Who better to draw me out of my hibernation than the inescapable Chetan Bhagat? I’ve suppressed my words for the past 8 months, but then a day like this one comes along when I actually agree with something the above mentioned gentleman has written. How can I stay quiet today?
Yes shoot me. I agree with some of what Mr. Bhagat has written in his column in the Times of India today called “The underage optimist” . Unintentionally I suppose, Mr. Bhagat actually makes sense. He comments on the attitudes of men towards women as portrayed in the recent Bollywood movie, “Cocktail”. He says, “Many Indian men, even the educated ones, have two distinct profiles of women — the girlfriend material and the wife material. One you party with, the other you take home. The prejudice against non-traditional women who assert themselves is strong.” Thank you for saying it sir. It is true.
Guys, this one is for you. We are great multi-taskers. We are not one-dimensional. So during the day we can cook our food, go to work, take care of our kids and after we are done with a day’s work, we can head out to watch a movie, a play, a concert or just party the night away. And no don’t worry next morning we will be up at the right time to take care of the new day, hangover or not! And yet, every day we have to justify our choices, to our male friends and colleagues, our husbands and boyfriends and our fathers and brothers? Why? If you can do it – go drinking at night and be at work at 9am the next morning, why can’t we? After all it is a known fact that we are better multi-taskers than you!
Forget about men. They are probably just insecure that we can do it all! Women when will you start believing this about yourselves? I find that an equal number of women are judgmental of smart, assertive and free-spirited women at the workplace who do not conform. Are we jealous of them? When will we be begin to realize that as long as we are safe, we can do what we want to? No, this is not a motivational speech, this is a fact. Of course, we probably will not end up doing everything that men do because we are different kinds of human beings. But we can do whatever we decide we want to.
Now coming to the points I disagree on Mr. Bhagat with. He goes on to lecture on the benefits of having a working woman for a spouse. He lists five points and because of the language he uses, I can give him the benefit of the doubt on four out of the five. But one of them I have contradict him on. “Three, a working woman is better exposed to the world. She brings back knowledge and information that can be useful to the family. Whether it’s the latest deals or the best mutual fund to invest in, or even new holiday destinations, a working woman can add to the quality of life.” Bullshit. A housewife can have as much knowledge and information as a working woman. Because very often today a housewife is not someone who is staying at home because she is unemployable, but someone who wishes to stay at home. She is educated and skilled. She can stay at home and talk to people on the phone and Internet to keep herself abreast of the world. She can at the click of a button discover which is the best mutual fund to invest in. I know women like this. They choose this life for themselves and I salute them for it.
So when I told my hubby about this article and read out some of it to him, he laughed and said, “Well I married my girlfriend material.” Before some of you go “aww” about it, no please don’t. This is not an “aww” moment. This is reality. Deal with it.